It takes courage to write and to publish, especially when what we write is personal, as it often can be on Substack, so kudos to you for continuing to do it, Hoang, despite the voices in your head that say it doesn't matter or others are better, etc. We all have them--I know I do. The metaphor in comparing learning to swim later in life with decisions about moving is apt. The fear is so strong that even trusting others you love to "catch you" doesn't always work. But still, to keep going despite the fear is really the story of living. There is always fear, and, unless you're simply one of those people who thrives on it (I'm certainly not), you have to find a way to keep going despite it. The worst that can happen is you change your mind about something later. But worse than that is often the regret you feel about NOT having tried something because you were too afraid. I look forward to reading about how your and your husband's future plans develop.
It takes courage to write and to publish, especially when what we write is personal, as it often can be on Substack, so kudos to you for continuing to do it, Hoang, despite the voices in your head that say it doesn't matter or others are better, etc. We all have them--I know I do. The metaphor in comparing learning to swim later in life with decisions about moving is apt. The fear is so strong that even trusting others you love to "catch you" doesn't always work. But still, to keep going despite the fear is really the story of living. There is always fear, and, unless you're simply one of those people who thrives on it (I'm certainly not), you have to find a way to keep going despite it. The worst that can happen is you change your mind about something later. But worse than that is often the regret you feel about NOT having tried something because you were too afraid. I look forward to reading about how your and your husband's future plans develop.