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Feb 26Liked by Hoang Samuelson

I learned things about grandma I never knew. Thank you for this piece. It was very emotional and heartfelt. I love you auntie Hoang.

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Feb 27·edited Feb 27Author

You're welcome my lovely niece! I hope we all share stories about our loved ones in the future.

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I’m so very sorry to read about the loss of your mother, Hoang. This is a beautiful, heartfelt tribute that I’m sure wasn’t easy to write. I’m glad that the divisions between you healed in the end, that you spent so much time together and that your kids will have fond memories of the time they spent with their grandmother.

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Thank you Ruth. It was very hard for me to write this. I had to wait a few weeks, even though I had started writing about her while she was sick in the hospital. And you're right - my time with her will always be associated with my kids, which I hope they'll remember!

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You painted a touching portrait of your mom, including reconciling with her after some tough years. I hope you’ll write more about her, though only when you’re ready. It takes years to absorb the loss of those so close to us—perhaps a lifetime. I’m still doing it—and my mom died almost 25 years ago!

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I will definitely write more about her for sure!

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Feb 25Liked by Hoang Samuelson

So sorry to hear of your mother's passing, Hoang. In too had regrets about the questions I didn't ask my mom, a holocaust survivor, so I relate so much to that aspect of your grief.

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Thanks Brenda. I appreciate you reading. When I was going through my moms stuff I secretly hoped that I would find something that would tell me more about her like a journal or something but she was a very simple person and never kept any diaries or letters. She was not big on writing. I was a bit disappointed but oh well…some things are best left unanswered.

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Feb 25Liked by Hoang Samuelson

I’m so sorry for your loss Hoang. Thank you for sharing your memories of your mother. I especially love the photos you’ve chosen, which show a mother who loved her daughter, even if she wasn’t always able to express that love. You can see in her face that she loved you and your family dearly. How wonderful that you had those wonderful last years of closeness. Sending warm hugs xxx

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Thank you Marg for your kind comment. It’s so complicated to talk about death especially when it comes to a parent. I almost didn’t write them…but I’m glad you liked the photos. There aren’t that many of me and her so I definitely treasure what I have!

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I'm so sorry to learn, belatedly, of your mom's passing. Your writing here captures a woman who had so many facets and such a life force that continues in you. I'm glad you had the chance to reconnect with her even more strongly in the last few years. Peace to you and to all your family.

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Thank you 🙏 I appreciate your nice words!

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My deepest condolences.

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Thank you David 🙏

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